V's Take

Dear V: Too many lovers, not enough friends…

Dear V,
You know how some people get placed in the “friend” zone? Well,
because I am so fine, I am always placed in the opposite end of that
spectrum and everyone wants to be my lover and not my friend. I am
constantly annoyed by people staring at me in awe and definitely
irritated by their advances.
What should I do?

Sincerely,
Too Sexy For My Shirt

Dear Too Sexy For My Shirt,
Well, well, well, aren’t we confident in our appearance. It’s such a
shame that people find you so attractive (many people would kill for
your “problem”). I can understand, though, how this could get
annoying, for I am also quite fine and suffer from similar issues.

First of all, you should determine if this is the real reason why
people are reluctant to be just your friend. You’d think if you were
both attractive as well as a great person, people would also like you
for other reasons besides just getting you into bed. Think about how
you come across when you meet someone new: are you friendly or
standoffish? Do you make them smile because of what you’re saying or
just because of how you look? Make sure you are giving people other
reasons to like you besides just your hot bod.

Try not dressing quite as provocatively and going out at some more low
key venues where you may find more down-to-earth, genuine people. I
know Miami is a hot city full of horny people, but trust me, there is
someone out there who wants to be friends with you and doesn’t just
want to sleep with you. While part of this is finding those right
people, make sure you aren’t perpetuating the problem. Do you make an
effort to be friendly yet not flirty? Be careful with what you say to
people, the wrong tone (especially when combined with your stunning
good looks) could be easily misconstrued as flirtatious, and it seems
like that’s the last thing you need right now.

Best of luck making some new buds.
V

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September 12, 2010

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