V's Take

Dear V: I can’t get no satisfaction…

Dear V,

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a long time now and we lost
our virginities to each other months ago. He seems to enjoy the sex
but it’s all over too fast. 10 minutes too fast to be exact. We are
both inexperienced but I have no idea how to tell him. A part of me
doesn’t want to because we haven’t had any big problems in our
relationship and I don’t want this to be the start of any. I’m just
tired of being unsatisfied when it comes to intercourse.

Sincerely,
Shortchanged

Dear Shortchanged,

I wouldn’t tell your boyfriend he’s inexperienced, but I would speak
up about the quick finish. Sex should be enjoyable for the both of
you, and seems to me like you’re getting the short end of the stick.
The good thing is you know you’re enough of a turn on that he has no
problem getting off in the bedroom. Now all you have to do is let him
know how much you want to savor the moment. Don’t make is sound as
though you aren’t being satisfied. Just say how much you want him and
that you don’t want it to be over so quickly.

Try taking things slower once you hit the bedroom. One way to prevent
his shortcomings is to ease into things, keeping him from getting too
worked up too fast. If you still want to pleasure him, try kissing,
licking, or massaging everywhere but his manparts. This will make him
want you but allow you to hold off on direct stimulation for awhile.

Most importantly: tell him what you like! Make sure you’re getting
pleased well before intercourse starts, so you can be ready too when
you decide to take it further. Having your boyfriend go down on you
will keep you happy and keep him from finishing yet until you’re both
ready.

You deserve to enjoy sex with your boyfriend, so try taking things
slower and I’m sure you’ll achieve longer, better intercourse.

Best of Luck,
V

April 20, 2010

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